My husband and I are only in our 40s and healthy, but we're already planning our funerals. Our guests will not be wearing black

My husband and I had never spoken about our funerals, but I'm glad we have now. Eva Kongshavn/Getty Images My father-in-law's funeral was a celebration of his life with family, friends, music, and laughter. His memorial pushed my husband and I to begin talking about our own funerals for the first…